On June 11 2017, I received an invitation to come tell my story at the “permitted to succeed” event, which was scheduled to hold on June 24 2017.
As usual, I wondered what I should say. For several days, I was in an introspective state of mind; churning over the events of the first 37 years of my life and grateful for this 38th year that I can make sense of the happenings. It pretty much reminds me of the sick man that was healed by the pool of bethesda…(if you don’t know the story, refer to John 5: 1 – 15).
My conclusion is that life’s journey is all about purpose and your alignment with it. You have to be deliberate in every of your actions, once you recognize purpose.
“What is my purpose?” you may ask… My answer is this… I am to bring WELL BEING to every human I come in contact with. One of the expressions of this is by offering healthy alternative confectionery to promote the wellbeing of every of my customers; another is to inspire broken women with my victorious story that is filled with many broken road maps; Professionally, I offer solutions to problems, especially in the area of new business development. I am sure that as time goes along, I will discover many more expressions in which I will be enabled, to bring wellness to my circle of influence.
The road to discovering my purpose has been one very tough road, lined with tears, deep scars, depression, suicidal tendencies, insecurities, abuse, rejection, and fears. I realized that to find my purpose, I had to DIE…death in itself was to wrong philosophies, ideologies and teachings, which may seem safe and ideal, however, in the long run may have negated God’s divine purpose for my life.
As humans, to remain normal is ok… it’s far easy to adhere to norms. To be extraordinary entails being stripped, going against the status quo and paying a price to be successful. I am very excited about the journey ahead of me, the territories that I will take on and the lives I am impacting and will impact!
Another touch point was “who’s authority do you submit your essence to; and who is in your association?” This is very crucial!!!. So in my earlier days as a young adult, I realized that I was drawn to hurting people as myself, who had similar struggles as I did. We formed bonds to protect each other and not let anyone mess with us. Eventually, it was time to evolve from the place of pain and I couldn’t…simply because misery loves company. My epiphany came when I reached deep, told myself some hard truths and I had to sever myself from relationships that kept me bound. Trust me, these people are “good” people, however, their aura and ideology (which I shared), kept me stagnant for the race ahead of me. It was surely a painful experience being stripped off what I knew so well…pain, anger, unforgiveness, rage, bitterness, fear of the unknown, being in control always, insecurity, cynicism, self doubt, mood swings, insomnia and not wanting to be vulnerable (sounds familiar?) When I did, I let go of all the baggage because I was tired…really tired and I desired to be WHOLE. It was my constant prayer. Surely and slowly, I started to build new associations and it was different. I learned a new perspective and I have a life coach as a mentor (Steve Harris) who walks closely with me to ensure my better self is nourished positively. My friends and association are simply awesome and they make me see that I have wings to fly.
Lastly “what cost are you willing to pay for success?” This is one factor a number of people don’t consider critically. I am positive, that my story will not be this interesting without the very many painful points. My price for success was the first 37 years of my life. Buoooy! I paid that price and it has humbled me as an individual; helping me to see success, not in terms of material gains, but in terms of growth as an individual…in terms of harnessing potential…in terms of positively affecting my neighbour and in terms of being true to myself and loving myself completely, leading me to a fulfilled future.
Bon Délice Confectionery was borne from this place of clarity. In 6 months, we have grown organically and have been innovative with our recipes.
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I look forward to hearing from you soon.
Heart & Soul,